Self Love Challenge Day Five: Forgiveness 💝

Welcome to Day Five of the Self Love Challenge! ❤

Today we are looking at the topic of forgiveness. Why is it important to forgive, and what does it have to do with Self Love?

When we hold unforgiveness towards others in our heart, it affects us on a cellular level. It can even create disease in our body.

There’s a Spiritual Law which states that if we hold unforgiveness towards others, it blocks our blessings.

Forgiveness is a gift to yourself!

On The Self Love Retreat, I facilitate a workshop called ‘Self Healing Through Forgiveness‘. Today I will share one of the techniques I teach. It will help you transmute negative emotions, and free yourself from bitterness, anger, resentment, hurt, and internal pain.

Yesterday I shared a little about my ‘mental breakdown’ three years ago. While I was on the psychiatric ward (as a result of a psychic attack) my inner voice advised me to forgive my attacker. My response was something like “How can you ask me to forgive him? Look where I am!” It wasn’t easy, but I forgave by incorporating the following ritual, which opened the way for a more speedy recovery.

Forgiveness Ritual

Today’s Self Love task is to write a letter to anyone who you feel has wronged you. Put all your negative emotions onto the paper. Cry if you need to. Get it all out. Tell them how they made you feel. Then forgive them. Think about all the ways the relationship has helped you to grow, and thank them for the lessons you learned from the experience. When you have finished, burn the letter, and feel the relief. 🔥🕯📄

This ritual also features in Year Four of my novel Journey of a Sister. In the story, Suzanne has to forgive Charles for the way he broke up with her, but she also learns the valuable lessons.

Self Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t only about other people; sometimes we have regret and shame towards ourselves, for something we’ve done or failed to do. Negative emotions keep us on a low frequency, which can lead to ailments in the mind and body.

If you’ve done something you’re ashamed of, or which you know has affected someone else negatively, the best thing you can do for yourself is to apologise to the other person, forgive yourself, and commit to doing better next time. If you have allowed someone else to mistreat you, look at the ways in which you haven’t given that love to yourself. Forgive yourself, and raise your standards.

Tomorrow, we will be writing a love letter to our Self!

Self Love Retreat, Gambia

Lastly, I thought I’d share this powerful Hawaiian meditation Ho’oponopono, which is said to be the most powerful prayer for healing, forgiveness, and Self Love. Ho’oponopono translates to mean “Correct a mistake” or “Make it right.” The mantra is:

“I’M SORRY. PLEASE FORGIVE ME. THANK YOU. I LOVE YOU.”

If you wish to let go and move forward with your life, this Ho’oponopono will help you raise your vibration into positivity. It will assist and support deep healing and forgiveness towards yourself or anyone else you wish to forgive.

Before you start, focus your attention and intention; imagine creating a heart connection with yourself or another person, or situation you wish to forgive: