When I wrote my poem ‘I Need a MAN!’ back in 2009 (above), it was all about MY wants and needs. I wasn’t thinking about what I could bring to the relationship, it was all about me, me, ME!
But 7 years later, I’ve come to the realization that for relationships to truly work, we should approach them with “What can I GIVE?”
If you both have the attitude of serving each other and making each other happy, the relationship stands a much better chance of survival!
Recently I watched a webinar by Tony Dada and his spiritual mentor bro Ishmael Tetteh (who lives in Ghana). What stuck in my mind was something bro Ishmael said;
“If you want to be happy don’t get married, but if you want to MAKE someone happy, get married.”
Profound, isn’t it?
What if we all approached our relationships with the attitude to serve, not to be served?
The greatest Truth I have learnt is that we are all gods and goddesses, and that our body is the temple of our in-dwelling Holy Spirit (the part of us made in the image and likeness of the Great Creator). Our relationships are therefore HOLY GROUND. With this knowledge, we should seek to worship each other! Reverence each other! Adore each other! Praise each other! (Who doesn’t love receiving praise?) Why do we worship, adore and give praise to a God we cannot see, yet treat our own brothers and sisters as if they are unworthy of our love, devotion, time, energy and money?
This reminds me of the scripture 1 John 4:20 which says ‘how can you say you love God who you cannot see, yet you treat your own brother or sister like sh*t? (paraphrasing!) Right there, you can see that to love God IS to love your fellow human being!
In Year One of my Self-help novel ‘Journey of a Sister’, while on their First Date, Suzanne asked Charles how he knows his life is right with God if he doesn’t go to church? His reply was;
“Well…” Charles paused to think carefully before responding;
“God lives inside me, that’s why I don’t feel I need to go to church to find him. Plus, I don’t see anywhere in the bible that says you should go to church every Sunday.”
“True, but it does say not to forsake the gathering of the brethren.”
“Yes, well I’m more interested in relationship than religion.”
“But how can you have a relationship with God if you refuse to mix with his people?”
“I don’t; his people are everywhere, not just in church – I serve God every day by serving my fellow human beings. I see God in every body…I see God in YOU.”
So you see, by acknowledging God in every person you relate to, your relationships become HOLY. Imagine how our relationships (and the world!) would transform if we treated our friends, family, colleagues and partners with the same reverence we give God – and they did the same?
In order for our relationships to work, we have to put the spirituality back into them. With ‘God’ in the centre of our relationships, they are bound to succeed!
Look in the mirror and say to your Self: “I am becoming consciously aware of who I am (a god/goddess). My body is my temple. My personal relationships are the most important element in this process, therefore they are holy ground. I see all those I am in relationship with as sacred souls on a sacred journey. I will always strive to see the god/goddess in every body, even when they are showing me less.” (extract from Year Four)
I no longer need a man, I need a god whom I can serve, and who will treat me like a goddess – and I serve God by serving my fellow human beings.
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